by Amanda & Dylan Vanz, Enneagram Relationship Coaches
Remember that serious surprise that Dr. K mentioned a couple of weeks ago?!
Hellooooooooooooo!! We are it!!
And. We. Are. So. Excited.
Why you might ask??
WELL, today we (Amanda and Dylan) get to talk to you about the power of the Enneagram in relationship.
What is THE most important thing in our life?
Nope, it’s not pizza (even though Dylan may disagree sometimes).
Butter tarts?! Still nope. (Kendra doesn’t even know what a butter tart is…)
Relationship is the lifeblood of the world. But today we are going to be speaking on the one we have with our partners.
Think about it, really think about it, we devote our lives to our partner. How many other things do you commit your life to? Wake up next to? Come home to? How many other things do you cry with? Laugh with? Spend the majority of your life with? Poop with? (Is the last one just us??)
Relationship truly is the greatest gift that we have in our lifetime. And when our relationships are thriving, so are we.
In our *lovingly blunt* opinion, we need to invest as much (or more) time and effort into cultivating this connection as we do in other areas of our life, like taking care of our finances, careers, kids, material needs, and physical health.
How does the Enneagram relate to this? Simply put, it gives us a shortcut to true connection and strong relationships.
It’s difficult to describe just how much it can impact this major part of your life because honestly it may seem too good to be true, but in this case…that’s just the way it is.
It’s powerful. It’s transformative. And it’s real.
Here are a few of the ways the Enneagram will empower your relationship:
Have you ever been in a conversation with your partner and they’re not getting you at all, to the point where you think to yourself, “Am I speaking a different language or something?!”
The Enneagram gives us a common language to speak. When different types are interacting with each other, it can feel as though a translator is needed. Yet when we learn the distinct language of the nine types, it helps us communicate clearly and with intention. AKA a lot less conflict, and a lot more connection.
Have you ever not understood why your partner did something, to the point where it made you sad, frustrated, or angry?
The Enneagram helps us truly understand their behavior (and our own) because we know the motivation behind it. When we are able to comprehend the underlying drives, not only do we get it, we have compassion for it. AKA more grace, less reactivity.
Have you ever felt stuck or craved more forward momentum in your relationship, to the point where you are wondering how to grow together as a unit?
The Enneagram is that guide for growth. It outlines the specific ways that we can flourish individually and together. With it, we get to explore and experience personal growth with our partner beside us. We get to witness change happen in one another and be there to support and celebrate each other. We get to co-create a life together and become the individuals, and the partners, we were meant to be. AKA getting unstuck and leveling UP.
It really reaaaaaally is.
We work with the Enneagram in our relationship every single day, or rather, it works through us. And we can say for certain that when you integrate it into your lives together, it will create A LOT more space for vulnerability, play, joy, ease, friendship, laughter, and expansion.
If you want to have that relationship that seems too good to be true, we highly encourage you to take the time to learn about each other through the lens of the Enneagram, and see what can happen when you do.
Yes, it takes work.
Yes, there will be challenges.
But you will be working together to navigate those challenges – and doing it with so much love along the way.
We’ve got a lot of things up our sleeves with the Enneagram at Wellness & Co.!
Happening right now we have our unique two-on-two couples coaching, where you get both of us from the comfort of your own home (we’re in Canada!). The process begins with Individual Typing Interviews and then moves into sessions with all four of us. This is where we guide and support you as you learn yourselves and each other through the Enneagram. It is a deeply healing and wildly transformative journey that will support you in ways that you have always wanted. If you’re interested in couples coaching, send us an email at the link below!
We also have our EnneaLEARN: Summer Connect Series starting July 7th, where we facilitate weekly panels with the nine types via Zoom. Here we use The Narrative Tradition style of teaching where we interview people of each type, so you learn from them directly. This is a profound experience for both the panelists and the audience members that makes the Enneagram come to life.
To learn more about the Summer Connect Series join our newsletter or read this recent note to our Wellness & Co. family!
We look forward to bringing the power of the Enneagram into your relationships.
With bold and loud love!
Amanda & Dylan
Dylan is passionate about guiding teens, individuals and couples along the journey of looking within so they can find safety and courage in themselves and each other. He uses the enneagram (a very practical and tangible tool) to bring a deeper understanding to what it means to have self-love, and how to be fully present to your human experiences and relationships.
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