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Part IV: STONEWALLING Here we are at the end of our four-week journey together! I hope you have taken the time to really pause, read, and be intentional with the information in these blogs. Gottman’s research-based approach to relationships is at the forefront of marriage and couples counseling for a reason! As always, before we […]
Part III: CONTEMPT Annnnnd we’re back for part 3 of this 4 part series on Gottman’s Four Horsemen! Last week I left you with Action Step #2 – a somatic practice to cultivate awareness of your defensiveness and create space from stimulus to response so that you can engage with one another from a rooted […]
Part II: DEFENSIVENESS Ok pals, we’re comin’ in hot for part two of the four toxic communication styles in relationships (and their antidotes!). Before we dive in I want to do a little check in from last week. If you haven’t read part 1 yet, scroll down and go through that first! So, Action Step […]
Part I: CRITICISM I’m ALWAYS on the lookout for antidotes when it comes to healing. I’m a solutions kinda gal, what can I say. That’s part of why I love the Enneagram so much, it provides us all with clarity on what’s happening and what to do about it. But today we’re not actually chattin’ […]
Dear Reader, This author has only one pressing question. How do you respond to the betrayed, broken, fixated, and furious spouse demanding to know: “should I stay or should I go?” If you recognize the introduction of this blog, or read it with the exact tone of Lady Whistledown, then you are out from under […]
by Amanda & Dylan, Relationship Coaches, Enneagram Teachers If you’re doing inner work, then you already know of the little friend that we ALL have called ‘resistance’. Resistance arises in each of us when we feel triggered, when we are loosening our Type Structure (to learn more about Type Structure, check out Part I of […]
by Amanda & Dylan, Relationship Coaches, Enneagram Teachers Conflict is one of the top reasons that couples walk through our virtual door. It makes sense, conflict is inevitable in relationship. AND conflict can be used as a catalyst for deeper connection. It’s Not About THAT Have you noticed that the fights in your relationship are […]
by Amanda & Dylan, Relationship Coaches, Enneagram Teachers Well hello Monday morning! Today we are tackling our third and final Do/Don’t for using the Enneagram in Relationships. Our first post spoke to the importance of infusing humor and not weaponizing. Our second post tackled the value of being curious and the danger of filling in […]
by Amanda & Dylan, Relationship Coaches, Enneagram Teachers Back again with part II of our Enneagram Do’s and Don’ts in Relationship. Check out our first post to lay the groundwork for our first, and super important, do/don’t: DON’T weaponize DO have a sense of humor We have two more do’s/don’ts when it comes to the […]
by Amanda & Dylan, Relationship Coaches, Enneagram Teachers It’s Fall! The weather is getting beautifully cold, the trees have their best outfits on, and Dr. K has organized the closet displaying her fall colors in a way that puts Pinterest to shame. SO, time for you to grab yourself a pumpkin-spiced-vanilla-smoky-apple-leaf-frappe-latte, pick up an Enneagram […]
At the end of May 2019, we wrapped up the first birth trauma therapy group here at Wellness & Co. For eight weeks, four mamas learned; developed relationships; processed through hurt, pain, abandonment, and anger; and worked on forgiving themselves for not making choices they might have made had they felt empowered to do so. It was a privilege for me to watch them work through their struggles together, especially as a survivor of birth trauma myself. It was amazing to watch a mother soften in her judgement of herself and also feel completely accepted by those around her, something that these women admitted to previously not feeling very often, if ever.
When I started seeing clients in Maryland five years ago I noticed that people often had the same comments or questions regarding the therapeutic process. They typically go something like this: “but you haven’t experienced [parenting] so you don’t really know what its like,” “you must have the perfect marriage,” “I didn’t want to come because people in therapy have real problems and ours isn’t a problem,” “I figured that if I came to therapy once a week something would change”
….these types of comments and more go on and on. In short, people think ALL sorts of things about therapy.
Do you ever feel like your relationship is stuck? Running on autopilot? Or completely thrown off course?
I get it, I really do. I want you to know that if you answered yes to any of those questions, you’re normal. Your relationship is totally, 100%, normal.
We all get stuck. We all let our relationships run on cruise control without the proper love and attention they need. And, we all let our partnerships run off course. All of us, even therapists.