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By Rebecca Horch, BACYC, CPC Remember the days when we’d get paid a couple of dollars an hour to babysit the neighbor’s kids? I was 12 when I started babysitting, and was getting paid in change and snacks I’d take from the cupboard after the kids fell asleep. These days, local babysitters have higher standards […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach Learning how we show up in disagreements is one of the most beneficial things we can do to curb defensiveness, show up compassionately, and *actually* repair so we can get over it on and on with it. I’m all about awareness and accountability over here, so I thought it was […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach It can be scary for couples when their relationship isn’t where they want it to be, but it does NOT mean that they are doomed (I get that question, a lot!). It does mean (and I say this lovingly) that they have inner and relational work to do. Couples who […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach We can have so much resistance to talkin’ about the tough stuff in our relationships, but as Life Coach/Author/Podcaster Jay Shetty says, “Two humans coming together will naturally have disagreements, disappointments, discussions, and debates. If we live in a world of ‘oh, we never argue’ or ‘everything is all peaceful’, […]
Divorce is one of the most painful, scary, and overwhelming life experiences that someone can go through as a human. It rocks your foundation and leaves you feeling so deeply alone. It causes you to question how you’ll pay your bills, survive on your own, support your children, be able to trust another person in […]
Part IV: STONEWALLING Here we are at the end of our four-week journey together! I hope you have taken the time to really pause, read, and be intentional with the information in these blogs. Gottman’s research-based approach to relationships is at the forefront of marriage and couples counseling for a reason! As always, before we […]
Part III: CONTEMPT Annnnnd we’re back for part 3 of this 4 part series on Gottman’s Four Horsemen! Last week I left you with Action Step #2 – a somatic practice to cultivate awareness of your defensiveness and create space from stimulus to response so that you can engage with one another from a rooted […]
Part II: DEFENSIVENESS Ok pals, we’re comin’ in hot for part two of the four toxic communication styles in relationships (and their antidotes!). Before we dive in I want to do a little check in from last week. If you haven’t read part 1 yet, scroll down and go through that first! So, Action Step […]
Part I: CRITICISM I’m ALWAYS on the lookout for antidotes when it comes to healing. I’m a solutions kinda gal, what can I say. That’s part of why I love the Enneagram so much, it provides us all with clarity on what’s happening and what to do about it. But today we’re not actually chattin’ […]
Dear Reader, This author has only one pressing question. How do you respond to the betrayed, broken, fixated, and furious spouse demanding to know: “should I stay or should I go?” If you recognize the introduction of this blog, or read it with the exact tone of Lady Whistledown, then you are out from under […]
At the end of May 2019, we wrapped up the first birth trauma therapy group here at Wellness & Co. For eight weeks, four mamas learned; developed relationships; processed through hurt, pain, abandonment, and anger; and worked on forgiving themselves for not making choices they might have made had they felt empowered to do so. It was a privilege for me to watch them work through their struggles together, especially as a survivor of birth trauma myself. It was amazing to watch a mother soften in her judgement of herself and also feel completely accepted by those around her, something that these women admitted to previously not feeling very often, if ever.
When I started seeing clients in Maryland five years ago I noticed that people often had the same comments or questions regarding the therapeutic process. They typically go something like this: “but you haven’t experienced [parenting] so you don’t really know what its like,” “you must have the perfect marriage,” “I didn’t want to come because people in therapy have real problems and ours isn’t a problem,” “I figured that if I came to therapy once a week something would change”
….these types of comments and more go on and on. In short, people think ALL sorts of things about therapy.
Do you ever feel like your relationship is stuck? Running on autopilot? Or completely thrown off course?
I get it, I really do. I want you to know that if you answered yes to any of those questions, you’re normal. Your relationship is totally, 100%, normal.
We all get stuck. We all let our relationships run on cruise control without the proper love and attention they need. And, we all let our partnerships run off course. All of us, even therapists.