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A Letter of Love Dear Maddie, 13 years ago, you were born. And I was born, too. Born as a mother, something I had never been before but will now always be. Born as your number one supporter, your biggest cheerleader in your life. Born as your food source and your source of comfort. Born […]
by Erin Newton, LCPC “Second verse, same as the first! A little bit louder a little bit….” Here I am singing my song again! The song about how much moms matter and how much they deserve support and love. Just this week I had a mom in my life tell me that she pours everything […]
by Erin Newton, LCPC About a year ago, I attempted to run the Walt Disney World Marathon. It was such a hot day, that race officials ended up shortening the course, and I missed getting to finish the entire 26.2 miles by minutes. When I tell you I was completely devastated…this is an understatement. I […]
by Erin Newton, LCPC When I had my daughter five weeks early in 2008, I was surrounded by people who tried to make me feel better about my experience in the only way they knew how. Actual things people said to me: “You’re so lucky she’s small! My baby was so big!” “It’s great you […]
by Erin Newton, LCPC Hi there, mamas! How are you holding up? It’s been a really crazy year for everyone, but especially if you’ve given birth during almost any of 2020. If you have, you’re certainly not alone: an estimated 116 million women have given birth during this weird pandemic time. We know from previous […]
by Erin Newton, LCPC Part IV: “You can’t always be who you are.” Names, Society, and Racism Welcome back to our fourth and final installment of The Weight of the World: Being a Black Mom in America. If you’re new to the series, please go back and get caught up! You can find the other […]
by Erin Newton, LCPC Part III: Holding the Burden: Collective Trauma in The Black Community Hello and welcome to part three of our series! If you’re just now starting, please go back and read parts one and two. For the last two weeks I have been using my platform at Wellness & Co. to elevate […]
by Erin Newton, LCPC Part II: Birth, Trauma, and The Myth of the Angry Black Woman Last week, I introduced you to six different Black women – Shizuko, Natalia, Erin, Jesska, Jayme, and Michelle – and some of their experiences during pregnancy. We explored some statistics related to Black women and childbirth and the racist […]
by Erin Newton, LCPC Part I: Black Women and the Maternal Health System Back in June I wrote this post discussing my privilege as a white female therapist. If you haven’t read it, you may want to read it before you start this one. After the death of George Floyd, we at Wellness & Co. […]
by Erin Newton, LCPC Last month, Wellness & Co. devoted our time and energy to moms. We addressed postpartum depression (PPD), postpartum psychosis (PPP), postpartum anxiety (PPA), birth trauma, postpartum rage, and general feelings of loneliness in parenting and the ability (and sometimes inability) to give ourselves grace. One thing I did not address; however, […]
At the end of May 2019, we wrapped up the first birth trauma therapy group here at Wellness & Co. For eight weeks, four mamas learned; developed relationships; processed through hurt, pain, abandonment, and anger; and worked on forgiving themselves for not making choices they might have made had they felt empowered to do so. It was a privilege for me to watch them work through their struggles together, especially as a survivor of birth trauma myself. It was amazing to watch a mother soften in her judgement of herself and also feel completely accepted by those around her, something that these women admitted to previously not feeling very often, if ever.
When I started seeing clients in Maryland five years ago I noticed that people often had the same comments or questions regarding the therapeutic process. They typically go something like this: “but you haven’t experienced [parenting] so you don’t really know what its like,” “you must have the perfect marriage,” “I didn’t want to come because people in therapy have real problems and ours isn’t a problem,” “I figured that if I came to therapy once a week something would change”
….these types of comments and more go on and on. In short, people think ALL sorts of things about therapy.
Do you ever feel like your relationship is stuck? Running on autopilot? Or completely thrown off course?
I get it, I really do. I want you to know that if you answered yes to any of those questions, you’re normal. Your relationship is totally, 100%, normal.
We all get stuck. We all let our relationships run on cruise control without the proper love and attention they need. And, we all let our partnerships run off course. All of us, even therapists.