by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT

Loyal, curious, skeptical, and analytical…we’re talking about the Enneagram Type Six!

These traits describe only a small snapshot of the Enneagram Type Sixes we love! Let’s dig a bit deeper…

So, each week at Wellness & Co. Amanda & Dylan (our resident relationship coaches and Enneagram teachers) will be hosting a panel exploring each Enneagram type. We only have two more type panels! You can register to watch the panels here – sign up for one or for all nine! (PS – if you cannot attend the panel live, you can still register and watch the webinar later on your own time)! And, if you’re interested in purchasing a previous webinar that you missed – contact us, we’ll get them to you right away!

THIS WEEK – TYPE SIX!

This style of learning and exploring the Enneagram is bound to give you new insights, new context to the nine types, and new pathways for growth from Type Structure to True Self! 

So, in that spirit – in honor of our panel series we’ll be sharing some thoughts from YOU.

We’ve compiled reflections from all over to shed some light on our dear friends, Type Six. Particularly, what’s it like being married to a Type Six and what it’s like being a Type Six Mama!

Sixes are a curious bunch. On one hand they can be quiet, go with the flow, curious, deep thinkers. On the other hand they can be energetic, excited, antagonistic, and sometimes worrisome. Sixes are incredible smart but have this push-pull relationship with their own fear that can make it challenging to land in confidence. If you know a Type Six they can be very thoughtful, attentive, supportive, and stubborn. So, what’s it like being partnered with a Type Six? Let’s see…

HERE’S WHAT OUR DEAR FRIENDS, FAMILY, AND WELLNESS & CO. COMMUNITY SAID ABOUT BEING PARTNERED WITH A TYPE SIX!

• Me and my partner are both Type Six. We are always on the same page. Literally like we are the same human. Very hard to pick where to eat because we don’t want to choose and make the other upset. We are dramatic at times because we let our heart decide what we feel and not our brain. We can easily tell if the other is upset but the other will deny deny deny until the end of the night to discuss it, like a buzzer beater.
• My partner tells me all the things that probably will happen or not work out and I just say it will all be fine even if it’s obviously not going to be ok.
• He is easy to fight with because we both know we are truly committed so ultimately we know it will all be OK.
• I can depend on my partner to be there for me. Trust and reassurance is really important. We talk a lot before we go through things. He is always prepared with hand sanitizer.
• My partner is assertive, confident, and comfortable making conversation. She is bold and knowledgeable. She sometimes is stubborn or intense with her words. I appreciate her attentiveness to the world and all it’s intricacies but am also brought down by the need to reassure all her fears. With COVID she’s been on top of it and panicked all at once.
• My spouse never sleeps! His mind races and he’s always planning big, fun adventures for us. He is grounded, stabile, and loyal – he loves me to a fault. He is also generous and kind. With our children he is firm with boundaries and fun, I love that he can be so versatile and intentional.

Thank you for sharing what it is like being partnered with a Type Six! Your words and insights are helping us continue to honor and understand the strengths and challenges of partnerships with the Enneagram Type Six!

And what about the Mama Six? Let’s learn more about who they are at the heart of it all …

HERE’S WHAT OUR TYPE SIX MAMAS SHARED ABOUT THEIR MOTHERHOOD EXPERIENCE! 

• I’m a Type Six with a lot of childhood trauma. I’m now the mother of two highly sensitive young children on the autism spectrum. I think that being a 6 makes me very aware of how I am parenting and trying to see things from their level. I don’t want to inflict intentional or unintentional damage on my kids that makes them lose their trust in me or the world. I also try to honor their feelings and validate them. I am also 100% in their corner, but I don’t want to be “that mom” that thinks their child can do no wrong.
• Being a type 6 mom means second guessing yourself a lot and worrying about your kids a lot. Constantly wondering if you’re making the right choices and looking for information to confirm that you are. I need a lot of reassurance from my husband that we’re making the right decisions…which is silly because I’m the expert in behavior and development, not him. The anxiety and perceived pressure to make the “right” decision is also really overwhelming at times. But it also means that I am never without a contingency plan! 😂 I am the Queen of back up plans and Plan B!
• I feel like I’m on it and falling apart all at once. I constantly feel this push and pull between work and kids. I have this deep thinking side that’s really creative and passionate with work and then sometimes feel like my kids “fit in” to my life. I try to flip the story and focus more on them but I feel less confident in that area than work. I do like that when my kids do something special or funny I’m really present with them.

Curious to know what it’s like being a Type Six? Tune in August 25th at 6pm when we explore the life and experiences of some pretty amazing Type Sixes!

If you’ve been loving our Enneagram panel series as much as we are you might be thinking about how you can use the Enneagram to continue enhancing yourself and your relationship!

Good news! …

We have Enneagram and relationship coaches here on staff at Wellness & Co. Check them out!

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