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Many of us may be aware of the inner critic. The inner critic is zoomed in on our flaws, mistakes, or shortcomings. For some, the inner critic pushes us to constantly strive for “perfection”. For others, the inner critic is a dreadful voice that brings us down and leads to inaction.
By Erin Newton, LCPC, PMH-C I’m coming to you now, oh internet, with less wisdom than I have ever blogged with before. Five days ago, after living for twenty plus years with them functional in my mouth, I had all my nightmares come true and all four of my wisdom teeth removed. And I decided […]
by Erin Newton, LCPC Hi there, mamas! How are you holding up? It’s been a really crazy year for everyone, but especially if you’ve given birth during almost any of 2020. If you have, you’re certainly not alone: an estimated 116 million women have given birth during this weird pandemic time. We know from previous […]
by Jessica Smith, LCPC What CBT Says We Can Do About It! By now you should be fairly familiar with some of the most common cognitive distortions (check out Parts III, IV, and V for examples), and hopefully you’ve been able to pinpoint when you’ve engaged in them when experiencing anxiety in the past. As […]
by Jessica Smith, LCPC And finally, our last five distortions to cover! Here’s Emotional Reasoning. This distortion involves internalizing our emotions so that we believe what we feel must be true. For example, “I’m feeling sad today. I’m such a miserable person” or “I’m feeling overwhelmed, so I’m not going to be able to solve […]
by Jessica Smith, LCPC Hopefully you were able to read through my previous post which identified, described, and gave examples of some of the most common cognitive distortions (see Part II in our series for a definition of cognitive distortion). We’ll keep this psychoeducation train moving onto a few more! Here’s Personalization Has anyone ever […]
by Jessica Smith, LCPC Welcome back! In this post and the following two posts, I will be identifying, describing, and providing examples of some of the most common cognitive distortions. As you read, try to think of times you may have experienced certain feelings or behaved in certain ways based on these thought patterns! We’ll […]
by Jessica Smith, LCPC To this point, we’ve figured out what anxiety is and how it can affect us. We’ve also discovered that according to CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), it is typically caused by our negative thought processes. CBT terms these automatic negative thoughts cognitive distortions. Another Definition I’ll refer back to my trusty Merriam-Webster […]
by Jessica Smith, LCPC Hello friends, I’m Jess! For my first ever blogging attempt (woohoo!), I thought I’d take some time to talk to you about anxiety. The dreaded, sometimes overwhelming anxiety. First of all, what is anxiety? If I asked a room full of people (pre-COVID times of course!) how many have ever experienced […]
by Erin Newton, LCPC We’ve been exploring lots of important topics this month on the blog. Several weeks ago, I wrote a post about postpartum depression (PPD) and the ways it manifests and the shame it brings. In that post, I mentioned that part of my own PPD was having thoughts about harming my baby. […]
At the end of May 2019, we wrapped up the first birth trauma therapy group here at Wellness & Co. For eight weeks, four mamas learned; developed relationships; processed through hurt, pain, abandonment, and anger; and worked on forgiving themselves for not making choices they might have made had they felt empowered to do so. It was a privilege for me to watch them work through their struggles together, especially as a survivor of birth trauma myself. It was amazing to watch a mother soften in her judgement of herself and also feel completely accepted by those around her, something that these women admitted to previously not feeling very often, if ever.
When I started seeing clients in Maryland five years ago I noticed that people often had the same comments or questions regarding the therapeutic process. They typically go something like this: “but you haven’t experienced [parenting] so you don’t really know what its like,” “you must have the perfect marriage,” “I didn’t want to come because people in therapy have real problems and ours isn’t a problem,” “I figured that if I came to therapy once a week something would change”
….these types of comments and more go on and on. In short, people think ALL sorts of things about therapy.
Do you ever feel like your relationship is stuck? Running on autopilot? Or completely thrown off course?
I get it, I really do. I want you to know that if you answered yes to any of those questions, you’re normal. Your relationship is totally, 100%, normal.
We all get stuck. We all let our relationships run on cruise control without the proper love and attention they need. And, we all let our partnerships run off course. All of us, even therapists.