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A poem series from the eyes of a therapist

Why Do We Feel Powerlessness? | Here's the deal, clients in therapy feel a variety of things but a deeper look at what they are feeling can uncover quite a bit about their coping mechanisms, resources, and lived experiences. This post gives an insider look from the eyes of a therapist regarding a client with incredible loss. Read on...
Did You Know? Recovering From Infidelity Looks Different for Every Client | This post shares an insider look into one clients perspective of healing during recovery from the intimate partner betrayal in her marriage.
Does it Ever Feel Like No One Understands? | This post gives an insider look into a moment in therapy when a client felt unseen and unloved. Have you ever felt like the people in your life didn't value you, see you, or honor you? Take a look through the eyes of a therapist, read on...
Understanding Sexual Trauma | Trigger Warning: This post contains a story that may be sensitive or offensive to some. This post gives an inside look into how sexual trauma can be so painful and personal at the same time. See what a client experiences through the eyes of a therapist.
The Power of What Happens When You Start Sharing Your Story | Vulnerability can emerge in many ways. This blog post gives an inside look into the story of someone who risks sharing and gains power through the process. Trigger warning: This post contains a story of assault that may be sensitive or offensive to some.
Have You Ever Considered: What Role Do You Play in Your Spouses Affair? | Infidelity can be one of the most painful wounds for couples to recover from. But it's not impossible. In fact, many couples come out stronger than ever after a wound like this. This blog post shares a clip of what some couples struggle with in the healing process - forgiveness and recognizing the role each partner plays. Take a look through the eyes of a therapist!
Did You Know? Therapists Look Forward to Weekends Too! | This poem aligns therapists with the rest of the world. We are humans who look forward to the weekend, too! Take a look through the eyes of a therapist about the process of thinking and connecting with clients all week and getting a break on the weekend.
Does Anyone Want to Stay Married? | This post gives an inside look into the couples therapy process and the amount of clients that come in feeling hopeless and ready to give up on their bond. Read on...
Eight Common Emotions in Therapy | This post provides a look into the common emotions experienced in therapy, through poem form. Dig deeper into the eyes of a therapist and what eight emotions commonly surface. Plus, learn which emotion is often not as present in therapy.
Did You Know? Therapists Often Forget to Do This! | Many therapists have routines and patterns that they stick to when seeing clients. This post gives an insider look, in poem form, into something many therapists struggle to make time for in their busy day.
What Happens When Our Children Experience Our Worst Nightmare? | Trigger warning: This post contains information that may be triggering or offensive to some. This post explores, in poem form, the pain that adults and parents have in their own journey. This is the same pain they fear they children could experience. What happens when we cannot protect them and the pain happens again?
Did You Know? Feeling THIS in Therapy is Actually Normal? | Clients can feel a lot of emotions throughout the therapy process. This post gives an inside look, in poem form, into a common and normal emotion that typically emerges in therapy. Cheers!
Did You Know? Your Therapist May Have Thought THIS During Therapy! | The boundaries and ethics between therapists and clients are key. This post gives a look, through poem form, into an ethical challenge that many therapists experience when there is a strong connection with a client.
Did You Know? Clients Like to Come to Therapy on THIS Day! | This post explores, in poem form, common days clients like to come in to therapy. This post will uncover what feels special about therapy and why clients wants to come in on those particular days, cheers!
One of the Greatest Moments in Therapy | This post explores, in poem form, a celebratory moment in therapy when a client did something really incredible. Get an inside look into that process and how success in therapy feels, cheers!
Have You Ever Wondered: What Do Therapists Actually Do in a Therapy Session? | This post explores, in poem form, the intricacies of therapy and what being a therapist is like. The post details several examples of how a therapist works in a session. Cheers!
Have You Ever Explored Relational Healing in Therapy? | This post uncovers, in poem form, the healing journey that can happen when someone addresses their trauma, pain, and childhood wounds and learns to trust their partner. See how one person can heal and love all at once.
Despite THIS Anyone Can Feel Alone | This blog considers, in poem form, the type of people that come to therapy and the common link many of them share - loss of connection. Dig deeper into understanding what all humans long form and the importance of getting it despite THIS.
Have You Ever Wondered What Happens When You Finish Therapy? | This post considers, in poem form, what success looks like in the therapeutic process. It will show you how a motivated clients works through therapy and what happens when progress is complete. Cheers!
Did You Know? Women Have Affairs and Come to Therapy, Too! | This post explores, in poem form, a common stereotype in the mental health world - that women don't cheat. Some women do not understand how their broken marriage, unmet needs, and loss of self link to emotional and physical affairs. This blog post digs deeper into those patterns, read on...
Did You Know? In Therapy A lot of Clients Talk About Similar Experiences | This post explores, in poem form, how clients often come to therapy and talk about similar traumas or wounds, particularly during times of cultural movement. Take a look from the eyes of a therapist into a common and disheartening experience many women have.
Have You Ever Wondered What a Healthy Couples Looks Like in Therapy? | This post explores, in poem form, what a healthy couple looks like in therapy. Through the eyes of a therapist you'll uncover how couples act and respond in therapy, a true glimpse into authentic relationship love. Read on...
Did You Know? Therapists Get Triggered, Too! | This post considers, in poem form, what happens when a therapist looks in the mirror with a client and sees some of their own pain. This process is caused transference and therapists are taught how to manage their own reactions and experiences to their triggers. Learn more...
Did You Know? Sometimes Clients Do This in Therapy and it Really Means A lot! | This post explores, in poem form, something positive clients do in therapy that really can mean a lot to a therapist - giving feedback! Dive deeper into how that feedback can be useful for therapy and impact the therapist. I’ve had the joy of receiving positive feedback from several clients and today I share how those words swirl around in my head. Cheers!
Did You Know? Feeling Confused in Therapy is Normal | This blog examines, in poem form, the confusion and identity journey many clients experience.
Don't Do THIS in Couples Therapy | Sometimes couples therapy gets intense. It's hard, it's confusing, and many couples have a long way to go in their growth. Want to learn more about what to do and not to do in couples therapy? Read on...
THIS Caused my Most Stressful Day as a Therapist Ever | Curious what causes a therapist to stress? Or, what is difficult for a therapist to manage? This post offers a snapshot of what's stressful during therapy, read on!
What Feelings Are Most Common in Therapy? | Curious what clients feel when they come to therapy?
The Lasting Impact of Our Spouses Words | Have you ever felt frustrated or hurt from what your spouse has said? Do they regularly show anger toward you? Do you feel verbally abused by them? You are not alone. This poem targets the wounds some couples hear every day.
Did You Know That THIS is Actually Common in Therapy? | This poem shares a highly common experience in therapy. Whether you are attending therapy as an individual or couple, your mental health is precious, know that this pattern is common.
What Does Your Therapist Actually Think? | In that chair is a poem series by Dr. Kendra A. O'Hora, a licensed clinical marriage and family therapist. This expressive writing in the form of poetry gives clients, couples, and the world inside access into the mind of a therapist - what they see and how they are impacted every day. Curious to know what your therapist actually think? Read on, cheers!

In that Chair

How To Explore Your Grief After COVID-19 | We've all been stuck inside for quite some time. Maybe we need to finally get out a good cry. For many of us, shutting down emotion to survive was necessary. But now is the time to lean in and release. This blog will give you a deeper look into how you can channel emotion to start the grieving process, cheers!

by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT In week one of the COVID-19 crisis my therapist said something that I’ve held onto intensely throughout this horrific season. She said: Kendra, now is not the time to take on the suffering of the world. Focus on yourself, Jason, your family, and your clients. There will be time […]

Quick Tips, Self-care, Trauma

May 22, 2020

How to Explore Your Grief During Uncertain Times

Regaining Control: Seven Ways to Help Lessen Birth Trauma | Having a traumatic birth experience is more common than many new moms realize. Did you know there are many things you can do to prepare and help lessen/prevent this trauma? Breathe deep, while birth can be scary and overwhelming you can also be informed and educated on what your rights are and how to advocate for yourself. This blog offers seven tips to help lessen birth trauma, read on!

by Erin Newton, LCPC When I was pregnant with my first child, I had a lot of feelings (as a lot of moms do). I was excited and nervous and a little scared. We read books and researched baby furniture and learned about how to put a carseat in our car. We took a birth […]

Motherhood, Quick Tips, Trauma

May 18, 2020

Regaining Control: 7 Ways to Help Lessen Birth Trauma

Five Journal Prompts for Your Romantic Relationship During Phase One of Quarantine Release | Curious to know how to continue growing and healing post COVID-19? This blog post provides a friendly reassurance, reminder, and invitation to explore how you were impacted during this quarantine; and, next steps for your romantic relationship. Plus, a free worksheet for you to journal on, cheers!

by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT In just a few days Maryland is prepared to roll out Maryland Strong, which they call a roadmap to recovery. I call it a recovery and release effort, if you know what I mean. Tomato, Tomahto. Anyway, Marylanders, and many other states, will finally get a small taste of […]

Couples

May 15, 2020

Five Journal Prompts for Your Romantic Relationship to Get Through Uncertain Times

Postpartum Rage: The Overlooked Symptom of Postpartum Depression | This blog post examines a common and often unseen symptom of Postpartum Depression. Moms do not need to be ashamed to admit and heal from their anger or rage. Learn how to spot the symptom and next steps. AND, you'll receive an invitation to join our exclusive virtual moms support group, cheers!

by Erin Newton, LCPC My baby has been screaming for what feels like hours. She won’t nap unless I hold her. How the hell am I supposed to hold her nonstop and still care for my other children? I’m sweaty from having her pressed up against me for so long. My arms feel sore, heavy. My […]

Motherhood, Trauma

May 11, 2020

Postpartum Rage: The Overlooked Symptom of Postpartum Depression

What's Next? How Couples Can THRIVE After COVID-19 | Have the last few months been confusing, overwhelming, anxiety provoking, or fueled with exhaustion? Has your romantic relationship taken a back seat? Check out these tips to help your relationship or marriage thrive after this global pandemic! Cheers!

by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT Well that was a doozy. You know what I’m talking about, right?…quarantine life. If you were in a state where social distancing or shelter-in-place was enacted then you know the language I’m speaking. Quarantine life is no. stinkin’. joke. And for many of us, that quarantine life is slowly […]

Couples

May 8, 2020

What Next? How Couples Can Thrive After Uncertain Times

Out of the Darkness: Five Facts About Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders | Have you ever felt angry at your baby? Distant from your baby? Or, like you could hurt your baby? This blog explores the intense layers of motherhood many women experience and suffer in silence from. Five facts help you better understand whether you've experienced postpartum depression and how to combat the shame surrounding it. Plus, you'll have direct access to a support group for moms!

by Erin Newton, LCPC “I finally had a healthy beautiful baby girl and I couldn’t look at her. I couldn’t hold her and I couldn’t sing to her and I couldn’t smile at her … All I wanted to do was disappear and die. … If I had been diagnosed with any other disease, I […]

Motherhood, Self-care, Trauma

May 6, 2020

Out of the Darkness: Five Facts About Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders

Three Ways the Wounds of Infidelity, Affairs, and Betrayal Have Resurfaced During Quarantine | Hi friend, you're not alone. I see you and know you're hurting. This post helps us unpack why the COVID-19 crisis and quarantine have left you feel rattled and wounded all over again. This is no time to beat yourself up, you deserve connection and love. In this blog you'll learn more about the three emotional reasons couples are having wounds resurface.

by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT These blogs are always the hardest to write. But I know you need this. I know you need validation, love, support, and direction. Couples who are healing after infidelity, an affair, or betrayal are so so important to me. Your journey is delicate and I’m here to help offer […]

Couples, Infidelity & Betrayal

May 1, 2020

Three Ways the Wounds of Infidelity, Affairs, and Betrayal Have Resurfaced in 2020

One Key Question to Ask Your Partner After the COVID-19 Pandemic | Curious how to thrive and survive as a couple after COVID-19? Check out this blog to learn one key question you can ask your partner and be on the path toward hope, healing, and couple togetherness. Cheers!

by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT This social distancing, quarantine, shelter-in-place life has us all seriously rattled. And, we keep being teased that it’s coming to an end… Relationship wise, I’ve heard of people needing: a quarantine from their spouse, some serious spaceeeeee, a vacation all by themselves, and perhaps the most disheartening… a separation […]

Communication, Couples, Quick Tips

April 29, 2020

One Key Question to Ask Your Partner After These Uncertain Times

Three Relationship Goals for Quarantine | Curious how to survive and thrive during the COVID-19 pandemic? These three tried and true couples therapy tips can help your romantic relationship during any stressful time. Check out the best ways to help your couples bond stay strong during quarantine! Cheers!

by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT Are you living that quarantine life? Yep, me too. In some senses, it hasn’t been terrrribllleee – we did get served up Tiger King! In other respects its been pretty emotionally and physically draining. Here’s a snapshot: I’ve had some clients struggle with their sobriety because they can’t work […]

Couples, Quick Tips

April 24, 2020

Three Relationship Goals for the Challenging Moments of 2020

How to Find Connection and Support Our Heroes Throughout COVID-19 | If you want to find connection and support during isolating times. If you're a new mom, seasoned mom, or pregnant woman. If you're a fire fighter, nurse, doctor, police officer, or in any responding or medical field; this blog is for you! We see you, we love you, and we are here to support you. Learn more about how we are seeing these times impact you and then take a step toward healing today with our Wellness & Co. support groups. Cheers!

by Erin Newton, LCPC We are all so overwhelmed right now.  This weekend finishes up five weeks of quarantine for myself and my family, only leaving the house for occasional groceries, take out food, or my daughter’s allergy shots, which we have reduced from once a week to once every three weeks. Yesterday I finished […]

Motherhood, Trauma, Wellness Center Updates

April 21, 2020

How to Find Connection and Support Our Hereos Throughout the Uncertain Times of 2020