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A poem series from the eyes of a therapist

Why Do We Feel Powerlessness? | Here's the deal, clients in therapy feel a variety of things but a deeper look at what they are feeling can uncover quite a bit about their coping mechanisms, resources, and lived experiences. This post gives an insider look from the eyes of a therapist regarding a client with incredible loss. Read on...
Did You Know? Recovering From Infidelity Looks Different for Every Client | This post shares an insider look into one clients perspective of healing during recovery from the intimate partner betrayal in her marriage.
Does it Ever Feel Like No One Understands? | This post gives an insider look into a moment in therapy when a client felt unseen and unloved. Have you ever felt like the people in your life didn't value you, see you, or honor you? Take a look through the eyes of a therapist, read on...
Understanding Sexual Trauma | Trigger Warning: This post contains a story that may be sensitive or offensive to some. This post gives an inside look into how sexual trauma can be so painful and personal at the same time. See what a client experiences through the eyes of a therapist.
The Power of What Happens When You Start Sharing Your Story | Vulnerability can emerge in many ways. This blog post gives an inside look into the story of someone who risks sharing and gains power through the process. Trigger warning: This post contains a story of assault that may be sensitive or offensive to some.
Have You Ever Considered: What Role Do You Play in Your Spouses Affair? | Infidelity can be one of the most painful wounds for couples to recover from. But it's not impossible. In fact, many couples come out stronger than ever after a wound like this. This blog post shares a clip of what some couples struggle with in the healing process - forgiveness and recognizing the role each partner plays. Take a look through the eyes of a therapist!
Did You Know? Therapists Look Forward to Weekends Too! | This poem aligns therapists with the rest of the world. We are humans who look forward to the weekend, too! Take a look through the eyes of a therapist about the process of thinking and connecting with clients all week and getting a break on the weekend.
Does Anyone Want to Stay Married? | This post gives an inside look into the couples therapy process and the amount of clients that come in feeling hopeless and ready to give up on their bond. Read on...
Eight Common Emotions in Therapy | This post provides a look into the common emotions experienced in therapy, through poem form. Dig deeper into the eyes of a therapist and what eight emotions commonly surface. Plus, learn which emotion is often not as present in therapy.
Did You Know? Therapists Often Forget to Do This! | Many therapists have routines and patterns that they stick to when seeing clients. This post gives an insider look, in poem form, into something many therapists struggle to make time for in their busy day.
What Happens When Our Children Experience Our Worst Nightmare? | Trigger warning: This post contains information that may be triggering or offensive to some. This post explores, in poem form, the pain that adults and parents have in their own journey. This is the same pain they fear they children could experience. What happens when we cannot protect them and the pain happens again?
Did You Know? Feeling THIS in Therapy is Actually Normal? | Clients can feel a lot of emotions throughout the therapy process. This post gives an inside look, in poem form, into a common and normal emotion that typically emerges in therapy. Cheers!
Did You Know? Your Therapist May Have Thought THIS During Therapy! | The boundaries and ethics between therapists and clients are key. This post gives a look, through poem form, into an ethical challenge that many therapists experience when there is a strong connection with a client.
Did You Know? Clients Like to Come to Therapy on THIS Day! | This post explores, in poem form, common days clients like to come in to therapy. This post will uncover what feels special about therapy and why clients wants to come in on those particular days, cheers!
One of the Greatest Moments in Therapy | This post explores, in poem form, a celebratory moment in therapy when a client did something really incredible. Get an inside look into that process and how success in therapy feels, cheers!
Have You Ever Wondered: What Do Therapists Actually Do in a Therapy Session? | This post explores, in poem form, the intricacies of therapy and what being a therapist is like. The post details several examples of how a therapist works in a session. Cheers!
Have You Ever Explored Relational Healing in Therapy? | This post uncovers, in poem form, the healing journey that can happen when someone addresses their trauma, pain, and childhood wounds and learns to trust their partner. See how one person can heal and love all at once.
Despite THIS Anyone Can Feel Alone | This blog considers, in poem form, the type of people that come to therapy and the common link many of them share - loss of connection. Dig deeper into understanding what all humans long form and the importance of getting it despite THIS.
Have You Ever Wondered What Happens When You Finish Therapy? | This post considers, in poem form, what success looks like in the therapeutic process. It will show you how a motivated clients works through therapy and what happens when progress is complete. Cheers!
Did You Know? Women Have Affairs and Come to Therapy, Too! | This post explores, in poem form, a common stereotype in the mental health world - that women don't cheat. Some women do not understand how their broken marriage, unmet needs, and loss of self link to emotional and physical affairs. This blog post digs deeper into those patterns, read on...
Did You Know? In Therapy A lot of Clients Talk About Similar Experiences | This post explores, in poem form, how clients often come to therapy and talk about similar traumas or wounds, particularly during times of cultural movement. Take a look from the eyes of a therapist into a common and disheartening experience many women have.
Have You Ever Wondered What a Healthy Couples Looks Like in Therapy? | This post explores, in poem form, what a healthy couple looks like in therapy. Through the eyes of a therapist you'll uncover how couples act and respond in therapy, a true glimpse into authentic relationship love. Read on...
Did You Know? Therapists Get Triggered, Too! | This post considers, in poem form, what happens when a therapist looks in the mirror with a client and sees some of their own pain. This process is caused transference and therapists are taught how to manage their own reactions and experiences to their triggers. Learn more...
Did You Know? Sometimes Clients Do This in Therapy and it Really Means A lot! | This post explores, in poem form, something positive clients do in therapy that really can mean a lot to a therapist - giving feedback! Dive deeper into how that feedback can be useful for therapy and impact the therapist. I’ve had the joy of receiving positive feedback from several clients and today I share how those words swirl around in my head. Cheers!
Did You Know? Feeling Confused in Therapy is Normal | This blog examines, in poem form, the confusion and identity journey many clients experience.
Don't Do THIS in Couples Therapy | Sometimes couples therapy gets intense. It's hard, it's confusing, and many couples have a long way to go in their growth. Want to learn more about what to do and not to do in couples therapy? Read on...
THIS Caused my Most Stressful Day as a Therapist Ever | Curious what causes a therapist to stress? Or, what is difficult for a therapist to manage? This post offers a snapshot of what's stressful during therapy, read on!
What Feelings Are Most Common in Therapy? | Curious what clients feel when they come to therapy?
The Lasting Impact of Our Spouses Words | Have you ever felt frustrated or hurt from what your spouse has said? Do they regularly show anger toward you? Do you feel verbally abused by them? You are not alone. This poem targets the wounds some couples hear every day.
Did You Know That THIS is Actually Common in Therapy? | This poem shares a highly common experience in therapy. Whether you are attending therapy as an individual or couple, your mental health is precious, know that this pattern is common.
What Does Your Therapist Actually Think? | In that chair is a poem series by Dr. Kendra A. O'Hora, a licensed clinical marriage and family therapist. This expressive writing in the form of poetry gives clients, couples, and the world inside access into the mind of a therapist - what they see and how they are impacted every day. Curious to know what your therapist actually think? Read on, cheers!

In that Chair

Somatic Work: How We Break Through the Resistance to Change | This part rounds out a five part series on using the Enneagram for growth in relationships. Learn more about how resistance to change shows up in each of us and how we can work through that using our very own bodies. Cheers!

by Amanda & Dylan, Relationship Coaches, Enneagram Teachers If you’re doing inner work, then you already know of the little friend that we ALL have called ‘resistance’. Resistance arises in each of us when we feel triggered, when we are loosening our Type Structure (to learn more about Type Structure, check out Part I of […]

Couples, Growth, the Enneagram

November 30, 2020

Somatic Work: How We Break Through the Resistance to Change

3-Step Conflict Repair Process | Do you ever find yourself fighting about the same darn things with your partner? Us too! Conflict is normal and inevitable in relationship. But how you work through it changes drastically on the health of the couple. Check out this blog to learn the three step process to heal conflict now and forever. Cheers!

by Amanda & Dylan, Relationship Coaches, Enneagram Teachers Conflict is one of the top reasons that couples walk through our virtual door. It makes sense, conflict is inevitable in relationship. AND conflict can be used as a catalyst for deeper connection. It’s Not About THAT Have you noticed that the fights in your relationship are […]

Communication, Couples, the Enneagram

November 23, 2020

3-Step Conflict Repair Process

Enneagram Do's and Don'ts in Relationship, Part III | Check out the third recommendation for using the Enneagram in your relationship. This post shares the importance of continuous growth and what that looks like, cheers!

by Amanda & Dylan, Relationship Coaches, Enneagram Teachers Well hello Monday morning! Today we are tackling our third and final Do/Don’t for using the Enneagram in Relationships. Our first post spoke to the importance of infusing humor and not weaponizing. Our second post tackled the value of being curious and the danger of filling in […]

Couples, Growth, the Enneagram

November 16, 2020

Enneagram Do’s and Don’ts in Relationship: Part III

Enneagram Do's and Don'ts In Relationship | Check out part II of our series on do's and dont's in relationships. The Enneagram is a powerful gateway for change and growth in relationships. BUT, you may be engaging in these three HARMFUL patterns. Today's blog unpacks a harmful pattern for couples and how you can change things up to be on the road toward health and unity. Cheers!

by Amanda & Dylan, Relationship Coaches, Enneagram Teachers Back again with part II of our Enneagram Do’s and Don’ts in Relationship. Check out our first post to lay the groundwork for our first, and super important, do/don’t: DON’T weaponize DO have a sense of humor We have two more do’s/don’ts when it comes to the […]

Couples, Growth, the Enneagram

November 13, 2020

Enneagram Do’s and Don’ts in Relationship: Part II

Enneagra Do's and Don'ts in Relationship | Check out our first do/don't in using the Enneagram in your relationship. This blog gives us an overview of the value of the Enneagram, how to get started, and unpacks a key problem with how people talk about the Enneagram. Dig in!

by Amanda & Dylan, Relationship Coaches, Enneagram Teachers It’s Fall! The weather is getting beautifully cold, the trees have their best outfits on, and Dr. K has organized the closet displaying her fall colors in a way that puts Pinterest to shame. SO, time for you to grab yourself a pumpkin-spiced-vanilla-smoky-apple-leaf-frappe-latte, pick up an Enneagram […]

Couples, Growth, the Enneagram

November 9, 2020

Enneagram Do’s + Don’ts in Relationships

How to Overcome Your Anxiety: What CBT Says | Part VI in our series on anxiety. We wrap up our series with a deeper dive into what CBT says you can do about your anxiety. Learn more about next steps and working with your anxious/stressed vibe.

by Jessica Smith, LCPC What CBT Says We Can Do About It! By now you should be fairly familiar with some of the most common cognitive distortions (check out Parts III, IV, and V for examples), and hopefully you’ve been able to pinpoint when you’ve engaged in them when experiencing anxiety in the past. As […]

Anxiety

October 30, 2020

How to Overcome Your Anxiety: What Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Says

How to Overcome Your Anxiety: Our Last Five Cognitive Distortions | In our fifth installment in our anxiety series, Jess Smith, LCPC takes us through the final five most common cognitive distortions. Learn more about what a cognitive distortion is and how to identify the common distortions in your own life!

by Jessica Smith, LCPC And finally, our last five distortions to cover! Here’s Emotional Reasoning. This distortion involves internalizing our emotions so that we believe what we feel must be true. For example, “I’m feeling sad today. I’m such a miserable person” or “I’m feeling overwhelmed, so I’m not going to be able to solve […]

Anxiety, Self-care

October 23, 2020

How to Overcome Your Anxiety: Our Last Five Cognitive Distortions

How to Overcome Your Anxiety: Five MORE Cognitive Distortions | This blog post dives into five more cognitive distortions - what they are and how they show up in your own life. Part IV in a series about overcoming anxiety and learning to be mindful and work with your thought distortions, cheers!

by Jessica Smith, LCPC Hopefully you were able to read through my previous post which identified, described, and gave examples of some of the most common cognitive distortions (see Part II in our series for a definition of cognitive distortion). We’ll keep this psychoeducation train moving onto a few more! Here’s Personalization Has anyone ever […]

Anxiety, Growth, Quick Tips

October 16, 2020

How to Overcome Your Anxiety: Five MORE Cognitive Distortions

How to Overcome Your Anxiety: Five Common Cognitive Distortions | This blog introduces five common cognitive distortions, what they are, and examples of how they show up in your life. Cheers!

by Jessica Smith, LCPC Welcome back! In this post and the following two posts, I will be identifying, describing, and providing examples of some of the most common cognitive distortions. As you read, try to think of times you may have experienced certain feelings or behaved in certain ways based on these thought patterns! We’ll […]

Anxiety, Growth, Quick Tips, Self-care

October 13, 2020

How to Overcome Your Anxiety: Five Common Cognitive Distortions

How to Overcome Your Anxiety: What Our Negative Thoughts (Or Cognitive Distortions) Look Like | In this post we take our understanding of anxiety one layer deeper by diving into the super-therapy-word "cognitive distortions." We'll unpack what it means and consider what types of distortions there are. Cheers!

by Jessica Smith, LCPC To this point, we’ve figured out what anxiety is and how it can affect us. We’ve also discovered that according to CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), it is typically caused by our negative thought processes. CBT terms these automatic negative thoughts cognitive distortions. Another Definition I’ll refer back to my trusty Merriam-Webster […]

Anxiety, Growth, Quick Tips, Self-care

October 9, 2020

How to Overcome Your Anxiety: What Our Negative Thoughts (or Cognitive Distortions) Look Like