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By: Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach, CLC, M.NLP READING TIME: 4 MINUTES As I sit here beginning to write this blog, contemplating how I want it to begin, a song keeps coming to mind that played a huge role in the inspiration for it. These words feel like the perfect way to introduce a topic that […]
by Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach, CLC, M.NLP READING TIME: 5 MINUTES This statement always gets a laugh from my clients after they tell me they don’t like it, they’re afraid of it, or they don’t want to feel it. But I do, I reeeally love anger. And I’m not talkin’ about the explosive, yelling, swearing, […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach, CLC, M.NLP Reading Time: 4 minutes Okok, the title “Fighting Is a Good Thing” might be a little strange to read but just hear me out… What I’m not saying is that constant conflict is a good thing, nor am I saying that I want you to be fighting in […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach, CLC, MNLP READING TIME: 3 MINUTES Defensiveness is a common challenge in relationships, which acts as a barrier to open communication and genuine connection. It arises from a place of self-protection, but it can lead to misunderstandings, resentment, and a breakdown in intimacy. And, if I may be so *lovingly* […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach CLC, MNLP READING TIME: 3 MINUTES In the intricate dance of human connections, our attachment styles play a significant role. These styles, rooted in our early experiences with caregivers, influence how we relate and connect to others emotionally and behaviorally. What often goes unnoticed is how these attachment styles can […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach CLC, MNLP READING TIME: 5 MINUTES Infidelity is a profound breach of trust that can shatter the foundation of even the strongest relationships. The aftermath of betrayal is often characterized by a whirlwind of emotions, including pain, anger, and disillusionment. However, amidst the wreckage, there exists a glimmer of hope: […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach CLC, MNLP READING TIME: 4 MINUTES The older I get (and the more I work with couples) the more I realize the importance of playfulness, pleasure, and presence in our relationships. Life can be really dang hard sometimes, it can be wildly stressful, and in the thick of adulting we […]
By Amanda Clegg CLC, M.LNP, Relationship Coach READING TIME: 7 minutes You know how much we love the Enneagram here at Wellness & Co., so we sat down with one of our resident Enneagram experts, Amanda, to ask her some q’s that we frequently get (and are just curious about ourselves too!) Side note: Did […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach Yep, the roommate phase in relationships. I see it all the time in my work. Whether the couple is newly into their marriage or have spent decades together – it seems to be a normal part of partnership. But, just because something is typical, doesn’t mean that we should accept […]
One of the most common statements I hear in my consultations with couples is that “We’re stuck in a vicious cycle.” It’s an exhausting, frustrating, and defeating spot to be in for many reasons, but honestly what may be the hardest part is that couples feel like they have all the awareness for what’s happening, yet nothing is changing. Here is what Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach with Wellness & Co., recommends.
At the end of May 2019, we wrapped up the first birth trauma therapy group here at Wellness & Co. For eight weeks, four mamas learned; developed relationships; processed through hurt, pain, abandonment, and anger; and worked on forgiving themselves for not making choices they might have made had they felt empowered to do so. It was a privilege for me to watch them work through their struggles together, especially as a survivor of birth trauma myself. It was amazing to watch a mother soften in her judgement of herself and also feel completely accepted by those around her, something that these women admitted to previously not feeling very often, if ever.
When I started seeing clients in Maryland five years ago I noticed that people often had the same comments or questions regarding the therapeutic process. They typically go something like this: “but you haven’t experienced [parenting] so you don’t really know what its like,” “you must have the perfect marriage,” “I didn’t want to come because people in therapy have real problems and ours isn’t a problem,” “I figured that if I came to therapy once a week something would change”
….these types of comments and more go on and on. In short, people think ALL sorts of things about therapy.
Do you ever feel like your relationship is stuck? Running on autopilot? Or completely thrown off course?
I get it, I really do. I want you to know that if you answered yes to any of those questions, you’re normal. Your relationship is totally, 100%, normal.
We all get stuck. We all let our relationships run on cruise control without the proper love and attention they need. And, we all let our partnerships run off course. All of us, even therapists.