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By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach, CLC, MNLP READING TIME: 3 MINUTES Defensiveness is a common challenge in relationships, which acts as a barrier to open communication and genuine connection. It arises from a place of self-protection, but it can lead to misunderstandings, resentment, and a breakdown in intimacy. And, if I may be so *lovingly* […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach CLC, MNLP READING TIME: 3 MINUTES In the intricate dance of human connections, our attachment styles play a significant role. These styles, rooted in our early experiences with caregivers, influence how we relate and connect to others emotionally and behaviorally. What often goes unnoticed is how these attachment styles can […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach CLC, MNLP READING TIME: 5 MINUTES Infidelity is a profound breach of trust that can shatter the foundation of even the strongest relationships. The aftermath of betrayal is often characterized by a whirlwind of emotions, including pain, anger, and disillusionment. However, amidst the wreckage, there exists a glimmer of hope: […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach CLC, MNLP READING TIME: 4 MINUTES The older I get (and the more I work with couples) the more I realize the importance of playfulness, pleasure, and presence in our relationships. Life can be really dang hard sometimes, it can be wildly stressful, and in the thick of adulting we […]
By Amanda Clegg CLC, M.LNP, Relationship Coach READING TIME: 7 minutes You know how much we love the Enneagram here at Wellness & Co., so we sat down with one of our resident Enneagram experts, Amanda, to ask her some q’s that we frequently get (and are just curious about ourselves too!) Side note: Did […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach Yep, the roommate phase in relationships. I see it all the time in my work. Whether the couple is newly into their marriage or have spent decades together – it seems to be a normal part of partnership. But, just because something is typical, doesn’t mean that we should accept […]
One of the most common statements I hear in my consultations with couples is that “We’re stuck in a vicious cycle.” It’s an exhausting, frustrating, and defeating spot to be in for many reasons, but honestly what may be the hardest part is that couples feel like they have all the awareness for what’s happening, yet nothing is changing. Here is what Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach with Wellness & Co., recommends.
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach Learning how we show up in disagreements is one of the most beneficial things we can do to curb defensiveness, show up compassionately, and *actually* repair so we can get over it on and on with it. I’m all about awareness and accountability over here, so I thought it was […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach It can be scary for couples when their relationship isn’t where they want it to be, but it does NOT mean that they are doomed (I get that question, a lot!). It does mean (and I say this lovingly) that they have inner and relational work to do. Couples who […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach We can have so much resistance to talkin’ about the tough stuff in our relationships, but as Life Coach/Author/Podcaster Jay Shetty says, “Two humans coming together will naturally have disagreements, disappointments, discussions, and debates. If we live in a world of ‘oh, we never argue’ or ‘everything is all peaceful’, […]
At the end of May 2019, we wrapped up the first birth trauma therapy group here at Wellness & Co. For eight weeks, four mamas learned; developed relationships; processed through hurt, pain, abandonment, and anger; and worked on forgiving themselves for not making choices they might have made had they felt empowered to do so. It was a privilege for me to watch them work through their struggles together, especially as a survivor of birth trauma myself. It was amazing to watch a mother soften in her judgement of herself and also feel completely accepted by those around her, something that these women admitted to previously not feeling very often, if ever.
When I started seeing clients in Maryland five years ago I noticed that people often had the same comments or questions regarding the therapeutic process. They typically go something like this: “but you haven’t experienced [parenting] so you don’t really know what its like,” “you must have the perfect marriage,” “I didn’t want to come because people in therapy have real problems and ours isn’t a problem,” “I figured that if I came to therapy once a week something would change”
….these types of comments and more go on and on. In short, people think ALL sorts of things about therapy.
Do you ever feel like your relationship is stuck? Running on autopilot? Or completely thrown off course?
I get it, I really do. I want you to know that if you answered yes to any of those questions, you’re normal. Your relationship is totally, 100%, normal.
We all get stuck. We all let our relationships run on cruise control without the proper love and attention they need. And, we all let our partnerships run off course. All of us, even therapists.