By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach

It can be scary for couples when their relationship isn’t where they want it to be, but it does NOT mean that they are doomed (I get that question, a lot!). It does mean (and I say this lovingly) that they have inner and relational work to do.

Couples who are committed to learning about themselves and each other, healing the patterns keeping them stuck and separated, and growing alongside one another are destined for a satisfying and solid partnership.

Without further ado, here are 9 of the top qualities that make relationships THRIVE!

1. Communication – There is continual openness to share your inner world with your partner, now matter how messy it seems.
2. Validation – You acknowledge and accept each other’s feelings, thoughts, and beliefs. This indicates that you see your partner’s experience is their own and seek to understand it.
3. Conflict management – You do not suppress things that upset you and you actively allow yourselves to go through both the conflict *and most importantly* the repair.
4. Affirmation – There is ease in offering emotional care and encouragement to each other. You both verbalize that you see and support spoken needs.
5. Trust – You feel safe and secure physically, mentally, and emotionally around each other.
6. Emotional expression – You are both able to share your emotions in an authentic way without feeling guilt or shame.
7. Physical intimacy – You feel comfortable discussing and fulfilling your needs, wants, and desires with one another.
8. Lightheartedness – You engage in playful interactions, prioritize fun, and welcome a positive perspective when appropriate.
9. Self-acceptance – You respect each other’s individuality and your confidence in who you are is not dependent on your partner.

Some questions to reflect on:

• How do you see these qualities in your current relationship?
• What areas would you like to grow more in?
• Which one is most challenging for your Enneagram type? (If you don’t know your Enneagram type, hit me up for a typing interview – it’ll take this work to a Whole. New. Level!)

While this list does not encompass alllll of the signs that make a secure, conscious, and healthy relationship, it does highlight key areas to cultivate.

Want to learn how to embody these 9 building blocks like a pro?

Schedule a free 15-minute consultation with Amanda here!