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A poem series from the eyes of a therapist

Why Do We Feel Powerlessness? | Here's the deal, clients in therapy feel a variety of things but a deeper look at what they are feeling can uncover quite a bit about their coping mechanisms, resources, and lived experiences. This post gives an insider look from the eyes of a therapist regarding a client with incredible loss. Read on...
Did You Know? Recovering From Infidelity Looks Different for Every Client | This post shares an insider look into one clients perspective of healing during recovery from the intimate partner betrayal in her marriage.
Does it Ever Feel Like No One Understands? | This post gives an insider look into a moment in therapy when a client felt unseen and unloved. Have you ever felt like the people in your life didn't value you, see you, or honor you? Take a look through the eyes of a therapist, read on...
Understanding Sexual Trauma | Trigger Warning: This post contains a story that may be sensitive or offensive to some. This post gives an inside look into how sexual trauma can be so painful and personal at the same time. See what a client experiences through the eyes of a therapist.
The Power of What Happens When You Start Sharing Your Story | Vulnerability can emerge in many ways. This blog post gives an inside look into the story of someone who risks sharing and gains power through the process. Trigger warning: This post contains a story of assault that may be sensitive or offensive to some.
Have You Ever Considered: What Role Do You Play in Your Spouses Affair? | Infidelity can be one of the most painful wounds for couples to recover from. But it's not impossible. In fact, many couples come out stronger than ever after a wound like this. This blog post shares a clip of what some couples struggle with in the healing process - forgiveness and recognizing the role each partner plays. Take a look through the eyes of a therapist!
Did You Know? Therapists Look Forward to Weekends Too! | This poem aligns therapists with the rest of the world. We are humans who look forward to the weekend, too! Take a look through the eyes of a therapist about the process of thinking and connecting with clients all week and getting a break on the weekend.
Does Anyone Want to Stay Married? | This post gives an inside look into the couples therapy process and the amount of clients that come in feeling hopeless and ready to give up on their bond. Read on...
Eight Common Emotions in Therapy | This post provides a look into the common emotions experienced in therapy, through poem form. Dig deeper into the eyes of a therapist and what eight emotions commonly surface. Plus, learn which emotion is often not as present in therapy.
Did You Know? Therapists Often Forget to Do This! | Many therapists have routines and patterns that they stick to when seeing clients. This post gives an insider look, in poem form, into something many therapists struggle to make time for in their busy day.
What Happens When Our Children Experience Our Worst Nightmare? | Trigger warning: This post contains information that may be triggering or offensive to some. This post explores, in poem form, the pain that adults and parents have in their own journey. This is the same pain they fear they children could experience. What happens when we cannot protect them and the pain happens again?
Did You Know? Feeling THIS in Therapy is Actually Normal? | Clients can feel a lot of emotions throughout the therapy process. This post gives an inside look, in poem form, into a common and normal emotion that typically emerges in therapy. Cheers!
Did You Know? Your Therapist May Have Thought THIS During Therapy! | The boundaries and ethics between therapists and clients are key. This post gives a look, through poem form, into an ethical challenge that many therapists experience when there is a strong connection with a client.
Did You Know? Clients Like to Come to Therapy on THIS Day! | This post explores, in poem form, common days clients like to come in to therapy. This post will uncover what feels special about therapy and why clients wants to come in on those particular days, cheers!
One of the Greatest Moments in Therapy | This post explores, in poem form, a celebratory moment in therapy when a client did something really incredible. Get an inside look into that process and how success in therapy feels, cheers!
Have You Ever Wondered: What Do Therapists Actually Do in a Therapy Session? | This post explores, in poem form, the intricacies of therapy and what being a therapist is like. The post details several examples of how a therapist works in a session. Cheers!
Have You Ever Explored Relational Healing in Therapy? | This post uncovers, in poem form, the healing journey that can happen when someone addresses their trauma, pain, and childhood wounds and learns to trust their partner. See how one person can heal and love all at once.
Despite THIS Anyone Can Feel Alone | This blog considers, in poem form, the type of people that come to therapy and the common link many of them share - loss of connection. Dig deeper into understanding what all humans long form and the importance of getting it despite THIS.
Have You Ever Wondered What Happens When You Finish Therapy? | This post considers, in poem form, what success looks like in the therapeutic process. It will show you how a motivated clients works through therapy and what happens when progress is complete. Cheers!
Did You Know? Women Have Affairs and Come to Therapy, Too! | This post explores, in poem form, a common stereotype in the mental health world - that women don't cheat. Some women do not understand how their broken marriage, unmet needs, and loss of self link to emotional and physical affairs. This blog post digs deeper into those patterns, read on...
Did You Know? In Therapy A lot of Clients Talk About Similar Experiences | This post explores, in poem form, how clients often come to therapy and talk about similar traumas or wounds, particularly during times of cultural movement. Take a look from the eyes of a therapist into a common and disheartening experience many women have.
Have You Ever Wondered What a Healthy Couples Looks Like in Therapy? | This post explores, in poem form, what a healthy couple looks like in therapy. Through the eyes of a therapist you'll uncover how couples act and respond in therapy, a true glimpse into authentic relationship love. Read on...
Did You Know? Therapists Get Triggered, Too! | This post considers, in poem form, what happens when a therapist looks in the mirror with a client and sees some of their own pain. This process is caused transference and therapists are taught how to manage their own reactions and experiences to their triggers. Learn more...
Did You Know? Sometimes Clients Do This in Therapy and it Really Means A lot! | This post explores, in poem form, something positive clients do in therapy that really can mean a lot to a therapist - giving feedback! Dive deeper into how that feedback can be useful for therapy and impact the therapist. I’ve had the joy of receiving positive feedback from several clients and today I share how those words swirl around in my head. Cheers!
Did You Know? Feeling Confused in Therapy is Normal | This blog examines, in poem form, the confusion and identity journey many clients experience.
Don't Do THIS in Couples Therapy | Sometimes couples therapy gets intense. It's hard, it's confusing, and many couples have a long way to go in their growth. Want to learn more about what to do and not to do in couples therapy? Read on...
THIS Caused my Most Stressful Day as a Therapist Ever | Curious what causes a therapist to stress? Or, what is difficult for a therapist to manage? This post offers a snapshot of what's stressful during therapy, read on!
What Feelings Are Most Common in Therapy? | Curious what clients feel when they come to therapy?
The Lasting Impact of Our Spouses Words | Have you ever felt frustrated or hurt from what your spouse has said? Do they regularly show anger toward you? Do you feel verbally abused by them? You are not alone. This poem targets the wounds some couples hear every day.
Did You Know That THIS is Actually Common in Therapy? | This poem shares a highly common experience in therapy. Whether you are attending therapy as an individual or couple, your mental health is precious, know that this pattern is common.
What Does Your Therapist Actually Think? | In that chair is a poem series by Dr. Kendra A. O'Hora, a licensed clinical marriage and family therapist. This expressive writing in the form of poetry gives clients, couples, and the world inside access into the mind of a therapist - what they see and how they are impacted every day. Curious to know what your therapist actually think? Read on, cheers!

In that Chair

13 Truths About Infertility and the Importance of a Baby Balancer | Infertility can be one of the most difficult journeys a woman takes. Learn more about how this experience impacts women with 13 truths. You'll also learn what the term baby balancer means and how you can be more supportive to women in this season of life, cheers!

by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT Celebrate Good Times, Come On!… We bought a beach house! We bought a stinkin’ beach house. Before we celebrate this crazy-never-could’ve-imagined-in-a-million-years moment, let me pause to share something really personal today on the blog. My beach house? It’s my baby balancer. Have you ever heard of this term, baby […]

Growth, Motherhood, Wellness Center Updates

July 1, 2020

13 Truths About Infertility and the Importance of a Baby Balancer

Acceptance or Attunement? What's the REAL Goals in Your Wellness Journey? | If I had a dollar for every time a client said someone told them to "move on, get over it, let it go." Ouch! Our culture loves this idea of acceptance but do we every truly accept something? Learn more about the difference between acceptance and attunement, which one is super healthy, and why the difference can change the way you process everything. Cheers!

by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT I’m Done With Acceptance Have you ever heard someone say “you just need to accept it.”  Oof. I think acceptance is a hair-standing-straight-up word for me. I do not like to hear it. You’ll learn more about why next week on the blog (I’ve got a personal story to […]

Growth, Quick Tips

June 26, 2020

Acceptance or Attunement: What’s the REAL Goal in Your Wellness Journey?

The Power of the Enneagram in Relationship | Have ya'll heard of the Enneagram? It's this wildly popular and powerful system for personal growth. But it's best kept secret is actually how it transforms couples. In this post you'll learn how the Enneagram can heal relationships and offer new opportunities for change. Check it out, cheers!

by Amanda & Dylan Vanz, Enneagram Relationship Coaches Remember that serious surprise that Dr. K mentioned a couple of weeks ago?! SURPRISE! Hellooooooooooooo!! We are it!! And. We. Are. So. Excited. Why you might ask?? WELL, today we (Amanda and Dylan) get to talk to you about the power of the Enneagram in relationship. So, […]

Couples, Growth, the Enneagram

June 22, 2020

The Power of the Enneagram in Relationship

Three Reasons to Embrace Your Emotional Experience as a Couple | Have you ever just felt like your romantic relationship is NOT on the same emotional wave length? For some couples coming together emotionally speaking can be difficult. This blog shares two analogies to help your marriage unpack the importance of standing side-by-side in the emotional waves of life. Cheers!

by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT Maybe I Need a Vacation A couple weeks ago in session I came up with this analogy and I’ve been thinking about it ever since.  Maybe I need a vacation or maybe I’ve been in reminiscence mode thinking about my childhood at the beach…either way, let’s dive in (pun […]

Communication, Growth

June 17, 2020

Three Reasons to Embrace Your Emotional Experience as a Couple

by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT My Phone Is Blowing Up Over the last few weeks I’ve received texts and calls from clients I worked with months or years ago reaching back out to schedule an appointment. I LOVE hearing from clients and think this is SUPER healthy. But before we dig into that, let […]

Growth, Quick Tips

June 3, 2020

The Number One Reason Why Returning to Therapy is a Good Thing!

Getting Started in Your Couples Growth Through the Enneagram | Have you heard of the Enneagram? It's an uber popular tool for self and relational growth. This blog gives a brief overview of the Enneagram and how you can use it as a tool for self-discovery, compassion, healing, and relational health. Cheers!

by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT Hiiiiii. I’m giddy. Because today on the blog I’m talking about the Enneagram. It’s my first time EVER writing a full blog post about what’s become a minor/major obsession for years. Don’t get too excited though, I’m not giving a comprehensive overview of the Enneagram (that would take like […]

Couples, Growth

May 29, 2020

Getting Started in Your Couples Growth Through the Enneagram

Does Your Marriage Need to Get Unstuck? | What are the three ingredients to a healthy marriage? And, how do we move from stuck to unstuck? This post tells you exactly what's needed to get your marriage back on track and jumpstart healing and closeness, cheers!

Has your marriage grown apart? Does it need a hard reset? Are you feeling stuck? We can help!

Communication, Couples, Featured, Growth, Quick Tips

September 29, 2019

Does Your Marriage Need To Get UNSTUCK?

How to Heal from Relational Trauma | What is relational trauma? Have you ever experienced relational trauma? This post will cover an overview of relational trauma and a quick tool for unpacking your own story and gaining more freedom and peace, today!

Trauma has an individual layer and a relational layer. Have you ever stopped to consider how you heal the relational layer?

Boundaries, Growth, Quick Tips, Self-care, Trauma

September 29, 2019

How to Heal from Relational Trauma

Healing the Hurt: Navigating Infidelity in Eight Easy Steps | Have you suffered a betrayal, infidelity, or an affair? Have you struggled to feel like your marriage or relationship can survive? Have you felt like you want to heal and forgive but don't know how? This post uncovers the truth about infidelity, cheating, and intimate partner wounds. You'll see the light during this dark time with practical next steps.

Many couples do not even know where to begin after an affair. They ask themselves whether they’ll even be able to survive. We can help!

Couples, Growth, Infidelity & Betrayal, Trauma

July 23, 2019

Healing the Hurt: Navigating Infidelity in Eight Easy Steps

Can You Say No? | Uncover the basics of your boundaries in this post about communication, boundaries, and the power of saying no. Dig deeper into your own mental health and communication style, cheers!

How successful are you at saying No? Read on for three tips to maximize your confidence with this simple two-letter word!

Boundaries, Communication, Growth, Quick Tips, Self-care

August 16, 2018

Can You Say No?

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