by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT

Quirky, unique, intentional, creative, talented, abstract, dramatic…

Does this sound like someone you know? These traits describe only a small snapshot of the Enneagram Type Fours we love! Let’s dig a bit deeper…

Are you just now tuning in? If so, here’s the scoop: each week at Wellness & Co. Amanda & Dylan will be hosting a panel for the Enneagram types, we are already halfway through, phew (PS – if you cannot attend the panel live, you can still register and watch the webinar later on your own time)! You can register to watch the panels here – sign up for one or for all nine! 

THIS WEEK – TYPE FOUR!

This style of learning and exploring the Enneagram is bound to give you new insights, new context to the nine types, and new pathways for growth from Type Structure to True Self! 

So, in that spirit – in honor of our panel series we’ll be sharing some thoughts from YOU.

We’ve compiled reflections from all over to shed some light on our dear friends, Type Four. Particularly, what’s it like being married to a Type Four and what it’s like being a Type Four Mama!

Fours are incredible people. The Fours I’ve come to love and know are intense, present, emotional, creative, attuned, funny, deep, and brilliant! They can fear abandonment or not being understood and they can add light and love to a room. So, have you ever wonder how they size up in the loveeeee department? 

HERE’S WHAT OUR DEAR FRIENDS, FAMILY, AND WELLNESS & CO. COMMUNITY SAID ABOUT BEING PARTNERED WITH TYPE FOUR!

• Being partnered with a Type Four is one of the most involved but rewarding experiences I’ve ever had! She is one of the most genuine people I know. I never get bored of talking to her, because she talks about everything with such passion and excitement. She does battle insecurity and as such requires more time and affirmation than most people. As a 5 it took me a while to feel comfortable giving her so much of my time. But she enriches my life so much with her passion about literally everything. I always feel loved by her, and it never feels like I’m wasting time by slowing down and experiencing things the way she does.
• Attentive to their own emotional landscape and the emotions of their partner.
• I love how attuned she is to me!
• I find that my partner cares a lot about being seen, understood, and different. He compares himself a lot to others.
• My partner is intense, she gets stuck in feelings of not being loved. She sometimes needs me to repeat it multiple times a day.
• I notice my spouse struggling with his sense of self and whether he is valued at work, in our friend group, etc.

Thank you for sharing what it is like being partnered with a Type Four! Your words and insights are helping us continue to honor and understand the strengths and challenges of partnerships with the Enneagram Type Four!

And what about Mama Fours? They are playful, nostalgic, and emotionally available. Let’s learn more! …

WANNA KNOW MORE? HERE’S WHAT OUR TYPE FOUR MAMAS SHARED ABOUT THEIR MOTHERHOOD EXPERIENCE! 

• There’s so much fun and nostalgia. A lot of freedom to express emotions, teach about emotions, and have respect around emotions. Each child is parented differently depending on their personality (extremely difficult sometimes) so they can feel safe and seen. A lot of vulnerability on my part and admitting when I’ve messed up so my children can do the same. A lot of art and messes! I get to play with my kids too!
• Creative, artistic, musical, passionate. Lots of room for creativity and exploration.
• Empathic and supportive towards children.
• Can get stuck in comparison with other parents while maintaining their sense of self.

Curious to know what it’s like being a Type Four? Tune in August 11th at 6pm when we explore the life and experiences of some pretty amazing Type Fours!

If you’ve been loving our Enneagram panel series as much as we are you might be thinking about how you can use the Enneagram to continue enhancing yourself and your relationship!

Good news! …

We have Enneagram and relationship coaches here on staff at Wellness & Co. Check them out!

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