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A Letter of Love Dear Maddie, 13 years ago, you were born. And I was born, too. Born as a mother, something I had never been before but will now always be. Born as your number one supporter, your biggest cheerleader in your life. Born as your food source and your source of comfort. Born […]
by Erin Newton, LCPC Hi there, mamas! How are you holding up? It’s been a really crazy year for everyone, but especially if you’ve given birth during almost any of 2020. If you have, you’re certainly not alone: an estimated 116 million women have given birth during this weird pandemic time. We know from previous […]
by Erin Newton, LCPC Part II: Birth, Trauma, and The Myth of the Angry Black Woman Last week, I introduced you to six different Black women – Shizuko, Natalia, Erin, Jesska, Jayme, and Michelle – and some of their experiences during pregnancy. We explored some statistics related to Black women and childbirth and the racist […]
by Erin Newton, LCPC Part I: Black Women and the Maternal Health System Back in June I wrote this post discussing my privilege as a white female therapist. If you haven’t read it, you may want to read it before you start this one. After the death of George Floyd, we at Wellness & Co. […]
by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT Say it With Me Mamas matter. Mamas matter. Mamas matter. Babies matter. Dads matter. AND mamas matter. Now that we have that out of the way are ya’ll pumped about these maternal mental health packages we’re launching today?! This idea has been brewing in my mind for yearsss and […]
by Erin Newton, LCPC When I was pregnant with my first child, I had a lot of feelings (as a lot of moms do). I was excited and nervous and a little scared. We read books and researched baby furniture and learned about how to put a carseat in our car. We took a birth […]
by Erin Newton, LCPC My baby has been screaming for what feels like hours. She won’t nap unless I hold her. How the hell am I supposed to hold her nonstop and still care for my other children? I’m sweaty from having her pressed up against me for so long. My arms feel sore, heavy. My […]
by Erin Newton, LCPC “I finally had a healthy beautiful baby girl and I couldn’t look at her. I couldn’t hold her and I couldn’t sing to her and I couldn’t smile at her … All I wanted to do was disappear and die. … If I had been diagnosed with any other disease, I […]
At the end of May 2019, we wrapped up the first birth trauma therapy group here at Wellness & Co. For eight weeks, four mamas learned; developed relationships; processed through hurt, pain, abandonment, and anger; and worked on forgiving themselves for not making choices they might have made had they felt empowered to do so. It was a privilege for me to watch them work through their struggles together, especially as a survivor of birth trauma myself. It was amazing to watch a mother soften in her judgement of herself and also feel completely accepted by those around her, something that these women admitted to previously not feeling very often, if ever.
When I started seeing clients in Maryland five years ago I noticed that people often had the same comments or questions regarding the therapeutic process. They typically go something like this: “but you haven’t experienced [parenting] so you don’t really know what its like,” “you must have the perfect marriage,” “I didn’t want to come because people in therapy have real problems and ours isn’t a problem,” “I figured that if I came to therapy once a week something would change”
….these types of comments and more go on and on. In short, people think ALL sorts of things about therapy.
Do you ever feel like your relationship is stuck? Running on autopilot? Or completely thrown off course?
I get it, I really do. I want you to know that if you answered yes to any of those questions, you’re normal. Your relationship is totally, 100%, normal.
We all get stuck. We all let our relationships run on cruise control without the proper love and attention they need. And, we all let our partnerships run off course. All of us, even therapists.