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Part IV: STONEWALLING Here we are at the end of our four-week journey together! I hope you have taken the time to really pause, read, and be intentional with the information in these blogs. Gottman’s research-based approach to relationships is at the forefront of marriage and couples counseling for a reason! As always, before we […]
Part III: CONTEMPT Annnnnd we’re back for part 3 of this 4 part series on Gottman’s Four Horsemen! Last week I left you with Action Step #2 – a somatic practice to cultivate awareness of your defensiveness and create space from stimulus to response so that you can engage with one another from a rooted […]
Part II: DEFENSIVENESS Ok pals, we’re comin’ in hot for part two of the four toxic communication styles in relationships (and their antidotes!). Before we dive in I want to do a little check in from last week. If you haven’t read part 1 yet, scroll down and go through that first! So, Action Step […]
Part I: CRITICISM I’m ALWAYS on the lookout for antidotes when it comes to healing. I’m a solutions kinda gal, what can I say. That’s part of why I love the Enneagram so much, it provides us all with clarity on what’s happening and what to do about it. But today we’re not actually chattin’ […]
Dear Reader, This author has only one pressing question. How do you respond to the betrayed, broken, fixated, and furious spouse demanding to know: “should I stay or should I go?” If you recognize the introduction of this blog, or read it with the exact tone of Lady Whistledown, then you are out from under […]
by Amanda & Dylan, Relationship Coaches, Enneagram Teachers Well hello Monday morning! Today we are tackling our third and final Do/Don’t for using the Enneagram in Relationships. Our first post spoke to the importance of infusing humor and not weaponizing. Our second post tackled the value of being curious and the danger of filling in […]
by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT Optimistic, energetic, adventurous… These traits describe only a small snapshot of the Enneagram Type Sevens we love! Let’s dig a bit deeper… So, each week at Wellness & Co. Amanda & Dylan (our resident relationship coaches and Enneagram teachers) hosted a “type panel” with each Enneagram type). We went through all nine types, […]
by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT I’m Done With Acceptance Have you ever heard someone say “you just need to accept it.” Oof. I think acceptance is a hair-standing-straight-up word for me. I do not like to hear it. You’ll learn more about why next week on the blog (I’ve got a personal story to […]
by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT Hiiiiii. I’m giddy. Because today on the blog I’m talking about the Enneagram. It’s my first time EVER writing a full blog post about what’s become a minor/major obsession for years. Don’t get too excited though, I’m not giving a comprehensive overview of the Enneagram (that would take like […]
by Dr. Kendra A. O’Hora, LCMFT Well that was a doozy. You know what I’m talking about, right?…quarantine life. If you were in a state where social distancing or shelter-in-place was enacted then you know the language I’m speaking. Quarantine life is no. stinkin’. joke. And for many of us, that quarantine life is slowly […]
At the end of May 2019, we wrapped up the first birth trauma therapy group here at Wellness & Co. For eight weeks, four mamas learned; developed relationships; processed through hurt, pain, abandonment, and anger; and worked on forgiving themselves for not making choices they might have made had they felt empowered to do so. It was a privilege for me to watch them work through their struggles together, especially as a survivor of birth trauma myself. It was amazing to watch a mother soften in her judgement of herself and also feel completely accepted by those around her, something that these women admitted to previously not feeling very often, if ever.
When I started seeing clients in Maryland five years ago I noticed that people often had the same comments or questions regarding the therapeutic process. They typically go something like this: “but you haven’t experienced [parenting] so you don’t really know what its like,” “you must have the perfect marriage,” “I didn’t want to come because people in therapy have real problems and ours isn’t a problem,” “I figured that if I came to therapy once a week something would change”
….these types of comments and more go on and on. In short, people think ALL sorts of things about therapy.
Do you ever feel like your relationship is stuck? Running on autopilot? Or completely thrown off course?
I get it, I really do. I want you to know that if you answered yes to any of those questions, you’re normal. Your relationship is totally, 100%, normal.
We all get stuck. We all let our relationships run on cruise control without the proper love and attention they need. And, we all let our partnerships run off course. All of us, even therapists.