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By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach, CNEP, CLC, M.NLPReading Time: 4 minutes Understanding the difference between guilt and shame is crucial, not just for your own emotional wellness, but also for how you repair and reconnect with your partner after conflict. This pattern is common in couples counseling: when shame takes over, it creates disconnection and […]
By Amanda Clegg, CNEP, CLC, M.NLPReading Time: 6 minutes You want to feel close.They want to feel calm.You want to talk it through.They want to let it pass.You reach.They retreat.And just like that, you’re both left feeling disconnected—and neither of you got what you needed. Welcome to one of the most common (and painful) patterns […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach, CLC, M.NLP Reading Time: 4 minutes Okok, the title “Fighting Is a Good Thing” might be a little strange to read but just hear me out… What I’m not saying is that constant conflict is a good thing, nor am I saying that I want you to be fighting in […]
Dear Reader, This author has only one pressing question. How do you respond to the betrayed, broken, fixated, and furious spouse demanding to know: “should I stay or should I go?” If you recognize the introduction of this blog, or read it with the exact tone of Lady Whistledown, then you are out from under […]
By Erin Newton, LCPC, PMH-C Hello everyone and Happy *almost* Fall! The practice has been really hoppin’ this summer, and that includes our referrals and requests for services! With four months left in the year we have already surpassed our number of calls from last year. We are honored and humbled to be this trusted […]
One of the most common statements I hear in my consultations with couples is that “We’re stuck in a vicious cycle.” It’s an exhausting, frustrating, and defeating spot to be in for many reasons, but honestly what may be the hardest part is that couples feel like they have all the awareness for what’s happening, yet nothing is changing. Here is what Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach with Wellness & Co., recommends.
By Rebecca Horch, BACYC, CPC Remember the days when we’d get paid a couple of dollars an hour to babysit the neighbor’s kids? I was 12 when I started babysitting, and was getting paid in change and snacks I’d take from the cupboard after the kids fell asleep. These days, local babysitters have higher standards […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach Learning how we show up in disagreements is one of the most beneficial things we can do to curb defensiveness, show up compassionately, and *actually* repair so we can get over it on and on with it. I’m all about awareness and accountability over here, so I thought it was […]
By Amanda Clegg, Relationship Coach It can be scary for couples when their relationship isn’t where they want it to be, but it does NOT mean that they are doomed (I get that question, a lot!). It does mean (and I say this lovingly) that they have inner and relational work to do. Couples who […]
At the end of May 2019, we wrapped up the first birth trauma therapy group here at Wellness & Co. For eight weeks, four mamas learned; developed relationships; processed through hurt, pain, abandonment, and anger; and worked on forgiving themselves for not making choices they might have made had they felt empowered to do so. It was a privilege for me to watch them work through their struggles together, especially as a survivor of birth trauma myself. It was amazing to watch a mother soften in her judgement of herself and also feel completely accepted by those around her, something that these women admitted to previously not feeling very often, if ever.
When I started seeing clients in Maryland five years ago I noticed that people often had the same comments or questions regarding the therapeutic process. They typically go something like this: “but you haven’t experienced [parenting] so you don’t really know what its like,” “you must have the perfect marriage,” “I didn’t want to come because people in therapy have real problems and ours isn’t a problem,” “I figured that if I came to therapy once a week something would change”
….these types of comments and more go on and on. In short, people think ALL sorts of things about therapy.
Do you ever feel like your relationship is stuck? Running on autopilot? Or completely thrown off course?
I get it, I really do. I want you to know that if you answered yes to any of those questions, you’re normal. Your relationship is totally, 100%, normal.
We all get stuck. We all let our relationships run on cruise control without the proper love and attention they need. And, we all let our partnerships run off course. All of us, even therapists.